AL DENTE’S TIPS TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE, NO. 15: Listen to your wife when she says that she does or does not like something.
For years, I’ve skipped ordering mussels at restaurants as an app or cooking them at home because I thought that The Wife did not like them. The Sister was home a couple of weeks ago. After years of eschewing seafood, she has fallen in love with it and is eating any fish she can get her hands on. During her visit, she asked what mussels tasted like. We talked about them and I mentioned that The Wife didn’t like mussels. Imagine my surprise when she said that she did like them.
AL DENTE’S TIPS TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE, NO. 22: Ask your wife if she likes something or whether she is willing to simply tolerate it.
How was that possible? How was it that for 10 years of marriage and the seven years of dating prior I believed that she didn’t like something. I could have sworn that she told me that she didn’t like mussels. It turns out that she likes them, but not as much as she likes shrimp, clams or scallops. After 17 years, we had broken new ground.
AL DENTE’S TIPS TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE, NO. 23: Stop trying to understand the difference between disliking something and simply not liking it as much as something else.
So on Saturday when I asked The Wife what she wanted for dinner and I got the response, “I wouldn’t say no to fish,” I sprang to action. Okay, so maybe not “sprang.” I’m not sure I’ve ever “sprang,” “sprung” or any other derivative of the verb “spring” before. I digress… Continue reading Saturday dinner part one: Beer mussels (plus marital advice)